Top 15 Things All Men Secretly Want In A Relationship

it is the desire of women to please men. Many women confess that they dont know what men want in a relationship. Here are 15 things that men want.

By Gerald Matiri
Top 15 Things All Men Secretly Want In A Relationship

What do men want?

Even though each man has his own unique qualities, there are certain qualities in women that will leave any man desiring for her. If you are looking for a way to make him fall in love with you, you will need to understand what the man wants in a relationship and what will make him desire you more than on a deeper level. Here are the top 15 things that will make a man desire you more and commit to love you forever more.

1. Men want playfulness in a relationship

Play is one of the things that will cause men to desire you on a deeper level. One fact of life is that men love to stay active and to play. This is due to the fact that they are raised in a manner that enables them to express themselves and to connect with the people around them through action. The unfortunate thing is that many women will not remember this and their only way is to talk to the men to win their hearts. However, the truth of the matter is that men will not feel you for who you are. In order to connect with them, you need to watch games and play some sports together. Ensure that you add a bit of sarcasm and teasing in the game. This will go a long way in increasing the man’s interest and attraction to you.

2. An independent woman is something that men want in a relationship

A common misconception that women have about men is that they are searching for weaker women who will leave them feeling more powerful and smarter. This is not true. Men are searching for women who inspire them. Great men are not intimated by success and independence. The most important thing for the man is a woman who will have space for her own things. A good way of sending this message to a man is by keeping yourself busy with your life. You don’t have to behave as if your entire life revolves around him. Avoid dropping your responsibilities, interests and friends to spend time with the man. If you happen to be with the man, be sure that both of you are having fun and give him get the desired attention. This will go a long way in making him to love you more and commit to the relationship.

3. Emotional maturity is something that men want in a relationship

At one time in a relationship, there will be a situation that will occur when the two of you see something differently, resulting in a misunderstanding. When a woman is mature in a way that she doesn’t criticize or blame the man for what she is feeling but is sharing her feelings in an authentic and honest way, this enables the man to understand her well and gets attracted to her. One of the key things that men observe in a relationship is how the woman is able to handle her emotions. If you are the kind who is unable to control your emotions, the man will be afraid to commit to you. If you can manage to present your feelings in a calm and non-dramatic way, this will cause men to respect you and they will be left feeling that you are the kind of woman they are searching for. This is because you will show that you have the ability to handle things smoothly. This will cause the man you desire to choose you as his girlfriend.

4. Intense attraction is what men want in a relationship

Most women believe that men are afraid of commitment. This is not true. The truth of the matter is that men are afraid of being in a relationship with a woman only if they aren’t attracted to her. One of the things that kill this attraction is by looking desperate to win his love. Alternatively, they will kill the attraction by acting in a way that makes the relationship look too serious. If you want the man to love you more, just relax and let everything flow naturally. Ensure that you are doing and saying things that add humor and fun to a relationship from the word go. A man will be attracted to a woman who is relaxed and is already having some fun. Some of the ways that you can do this is by using humor, flirting and remaining unpredictable. Rather than talking about what you do, you can ask about his favorite sport or what is his drive. The moment that you start dating the man, you shouldn’t be afraid to add some fun. If you only sit in the house on Sunday watching a movie, why don’t you go out for a picnic or bike riding? This will ensure that the relationship will be fun for the two of you. The fact that you will be open to new experiences will ensure that you look attractive to him and he will long to kiss you. This will add spice to the relationship.

5. Men want space in a relationship

If you are searching for a good way of ending your relationship with him, there is no better way to do that than to suffocate him with your presence or with behaviors that show signs of jealousy. A lot of men say that they need their breathing space. Men need time for their hobbies and to work on their projects. In most cases, when a woman is looking for a solution to their problems, they will discuss their issues with the people closest to them such as family members and friends. On the other hands, when men have a problem that they need to solve, they will not talk to anyone and they will leave this in their thoughts. Therefore, leave alone your man to breath and do his own things alone. The man will be quite happy for you to receive him the moment he is back and he will love you more and commit to you. This is because he will understand that you trust him and you don’t mind giving him his space. This is the kind of girlfriend that men are searching for.

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6. Men want security and physical touch in a relationship

Just like women, men want someone who they are sure are in love with them and are in the relationship for the long haul. The moment the man starts feeling that you are in the relationship for the long term, the more he will be open and ready to open up. However, it is worth noting that security is more than just sticking with him. He will need to be sure that you approve of him as well as his career. He will be secure when you love him for whom he is. He will feel loved and secure when you touch him in a non-sexual way whenever you are close to him. When you come from behind and touch his hair and neck in an intimate way when he is absorbed in whatever he is doing, this will have an impact in the same way as when you engage in penetrative sex. This is what is known as physical love. When you show physical love to a man, he will be ready to commit to the relationship.

7. Men want praise and approval in a relationship

Men like it when you offer frequent assurance to them on their career choices, sexual prowess, attractiveness and efficacy and partners. Many women complain that they hardly know what men want. Even though it may be true that men do not love a lot of verbal praise as compared to their female counterparts, giving them that occasional praise will do no harm. Let your man know what you love about him and your favorite physical features in him. Let him know that you find him quite attractive when he talks in a certain way, when he is able to accomplish something or even take you on a date. He will feel that you love him. When you praise him about something, you can expect to see more of it.

8. Men want respect in a relationship

When a man feels that you are disapproving of his career or the things that he believes in in your relationship, he will no longer continue trusting you and showing love to you even if you are his girlfriend. This is because the man will feel that if you don’t respect him for whom he is, there is no way that you will ever get along well when he commits to you. If you don’t respect him and what he believes in, there is no good reason why he will continue showing love to you.

9. Men want connection in a relationship

Just like women, men want that great connection in a relationship. The only difference is that men wants connection through communication while men want connection through sex in a relationship. This is not to mean that you need to have sex with a man everyday to have a better sexual connection in a relationship. Men will love to see indicators of the sexual access such as a kiss and a hug. The only reason why men will initiate sex in a relationship is to be sure that you are still available to them sexually. Therefore, when you give him that warm embrace or even a deep kiss, the man will feel loved and will want to love you more and commit to the relationship.

10. Men want partnership in a relationship

The moment a man has decides to make you his girlfriend, he has noted that he no longer want to be alone. Therefore, a man wants partnership in a relationship. Once, he commits to you, he will begin to view you as his partner. Some of the ways that you need to show the man that you are the right partner include: i. You help him to do his house chores or yard work ii. Spend money in a way that will match his financial stewardship and expectations iii. Give back to the man in the same way he gives to you Men will not want to commit to a woman who abuses his generosity. While he will want to assist you with the house chores, he doesn’t want to be the one who will always be doing it. It is advisable to start talking about sharing duties early enough in a relationship. Find out what he expects you to help and what he is ready to do. Also be keen on his spending habits. Always ensure that you are not taking advantage of him particularly if he is making more money than you. As he commits more to the relationship, hold a discussion on finances. This will show him that you also care just as he does. In case you make more money than him, find out what he thinks about it. Ensure that he doesn’t do more house chores in order to compensate for his financial lack as this will only serve to breed resentment.

11. Men wants good kiss and sex in a relationship

Probably you have ever being a girlfriend to a man who liked giving you a kiss, cuddling, hugging or even touching your hair. One thing that you will agree is that this affection made you purr like a kitten. This is due to the fact that men require affection in order to feel closer to you. In a study that was conducted at the University of Toronto-Mississauga, it was noted that couples who were reported to be happy had sexual intimacy around once in a week. This means that you should discuss with your man how often he would like to be intimate with you. Find out what he thinks will or can make the intimacy to be enjoyable for the two of you. In case you suffer from a low libido, you can visit a doctor or a therapist to find out how you remedy the problem. It could be that the only problem with you is insecurity on your body features. Once thing you need to know is that your man will not care about the imperfections in your body. All he will want is good sex.

12. Men wants outer beauty in a relationship

Men are visual animals and therefore the look matters a lot. If you are his girlfriend, you will need to always ensure that you Take care of yourself even as you pay attention to the things that he finds beautiful in you. A good way of improving your appeal is by eating healthy and exercising regularly. Even if you are already overweight, your man will see that you are making the effort to look good. This doesn’t mean that you will need to always look like a beauty queen or pile a lot of cosmetics on your face. In fact, a majority of men suggest that they are attracted to the inner beauty in women. However, the man will want a woman who makes him feel proud. Ensure that you dress in a manner that flatters and take time to groom yourself. He will long for your kiss and sex and this will make the relationship better.

13. Men want inner beauty in a relationship

Men would rather have a girlfriend who has great character and accomplishments. For instance, if you happen to be friendly and positive when you meet the family and friends of the man, you can be assured that he will be proud of being with you. On the other hand, if you are the kind who will complain at his parent’s home, he will be left regretting why he chose you as his girlfriend. You will also need to ensure that you remain knowledgeable and are able to develop your sills. When the man introduces you to his siblings or coworkers, he will be trying to brag about you. Ensure that you are a woman who impresses your man and he will always stand stall besides you.

14. Men want women who don’t put everything on Facebook

If you are the kind of woman who has to post everything on Facebook or Instagram, whether it was an enjoyable adventure or a romantic meal, you can be assured that this will cause the men to run away from you. While there is no better way to keep up with family and friends that social media, this is not what defines a life. The fact that you will get 20 likes is not a reason enough to put that romantic dinner with him on Facebook. Men do not like a lot of attention and wants a woman who is able to keep thie affair in their relationship secret.

15. He wants patience in a relationship

No man is perfect. He may still not be the kind of man you want. As his girlfriend, he will appreciate the fact that you are patient in helping him grow and become the best version that he would ever be. He will not turn to be the person that you have always desired overnight. He will need you to be there for him. The man will need your patience and encouragement in order to transform in to the kind of person that you have always needed. This will be a good reason for him to commit to you.